Regrets? I’ve Had A Few

Thinking about regrets and what you’d change if you had the chance always reminds me of Sliding Doors. Man, John Hannah was a fox. I have such a thing for that guy. He was on Agents of Shield this year and he totally holds up.

regrets john hannah

Anyway, where was I? Oh yeah. Regrets.  Everyone has those things we sometimes wish we’d done differently. Where we wish for the road less traveled or look back and think what if.  For example, I’m amazing at coming up with snappy and cutting comebacks about 6 days after someone insults me.

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Time was I had a lot of regrets in my life. I spent far too much time regretful over every tiny decision I made even though some of them were tiny. I regretted what I wore and what I ate and what I did on a Saturday night.  I didn’t just sweat the small things though. I regretted struggling at school because I chose the wrong subjects in my teens. I regretted my bad taste in men in my twenties. I regretted letting people go that weren’t worth my time in my thirties.  One day, I had a slight panic attack about how much of my time I’d spent looking backwards and how much I as missing in the present. That’s right –  I started to anxiously regret my regrets.

regrets crazy

That particular bout of existential angst took me a number of years to work through. Once I did though, I realised that all these wrong turns were pretty vital in forming my character. The miserable decision of taking all science subjects instead of the humanities I loved taught me to listen to my instincts about what I’m good at. My disastrous choice in men in my twenties taught me how to recognize the right one when he came into my life. Despite the mistakes, I’ve ended up here – happy, fufilled, loved and most importantly, confident in my own skin.  Every misstep helped create this life, so I wouldn’t dare change a thing. I’d probably be the worst time traveler ever.

Is there one thing you’d go back and change or do you also have no regrets? Confess in the comments or join the link up over at My Home Truths!

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  1. There’s a word for thinking about a comeback well after the conversation has finished – I’ve forgotten what it is tho, but it means it must be a pretty common habit for most of us…

  2. I’m much the same – sure we all make mistakes, but we learn from them! If we hadn’t made those mistakes we wouldn’t be who we are today.

    1. Yeah me too. I tear myself up about it less though too. Time was I’d be tortured by saying something stupid for weeks. Now I sort of shrug it off after a day. Progress!

  3. This is a great post, I’m moving into my late(ish) 20’s now and a whole lot of regrets have started haunting me… But I suppose without making those (now regretful) decisions I may not be the person I am today. 🙂

  4. I love the way you look at your regrets…as learning opportunities for you to see the right things further down the line. Often really hard to do in the moment, always easier when you look back and reflect!

  5. I love your take on this Tory. I also firmly believe that you are only who you are because of the path that has led you to here, to now. Any other decision along the way would have led to a different you…

  6. My only regret is that John Hannah doesn’t realise that he’s madly in love with me. Mostly due tot he fact that we’ve never met. He is a fox. It took me a few decades to realise but regrets only hold us back from moving forward and enjoying our life now.

  7. The first thing that comes to mind is the friend with benefits. I would definitely go back and tell myself to stay clear of him! Other than that, I look at things the same way that you do – my mistakes made me who I am today, and I’m pretty happy with that person. 🙂

  8. I have a ton of regrets, but like you I wouldn’t change any of them. I made some pretty big mistakes but they have come together to make me the person that I am today.

  9. no regrets here for the very same conclusion you drew, they all made me who I am and without them my life would be very different and I love my life!

  10. Loved this post. I am the same, I keep looking back and thinking and forgetting to live in the present and move forward. Would I change any of my regrets? If I could, I would but only if that made me a better person today.

  11. I’m a bit like that with life — in tough moments I’ll wish I’d done some things differently but in the end, it’s all got me to where I am now. While currently I’m not content, it’s all still made me who I am.

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