After last week’s rant about nasty comments, let’s move on to something more positive. They say it takes a village to raise a child. Our village consists of my mummy group, our amazing pediatrician and lovely GP as well as our other friends and family. Whenever I need help I can rely on someone to know the answer. Between all of them I have gotten some amazing parenting advice, that has stuck with me and I’d like to pass on to any other new parents out there who are stuck in the wilderness.
A sleep problem is only a problem if it is a problem for you
Said By: Out Family GP
Bear gets cuddled every night then put down asleep, even now as a toddler. Unless he has a nightmare or is sick/teething, he has always slept through the night in his own bed with the exception of some early morning snuggles. The cuddling to sleep arrangement works for our family and we like it. I felt terribly guilty that I didn’t put him down awake, that I was robbing him of the ability to put himself to sleep with my selfish cuddles.
No-one ever looks back on their deathbed and says I wish I’d held my babies less.
Said by: Our pediatrician
During the time of pre-Prilosec Bear, he was very rarely put down because he would cry and cry in pain. We embraced baby-wearing and at night slept in shifts. We were so worried that we’d created a baby who would just cry to be picked up even though there was nothing wrong. Hearing this helped us more than he will ever know.
Other people might be great parents, but they aren’t Bear’s parents.
Said by: My lovely husband about other people giving us advice
He’s right, sometimes you hear advice and think yeah that’s not for me. Like crying it out. Bear’s reflux has ingrained into us that crying will cause him more pain. We got told repeatedly by people during the newborn phase to just let him cry. I couldn’t do it but as it turns out that wouldn’t have worked for Bear anyway. Just because the people giving the advice are fantastic parents doesn’t mean it will work for your little one. Even a first time parent is an expert in their own child and you should always trust your instincts.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received? Share in the comments or link up with I Must Confess over at My Home Truths!